Like a Girl
My daughter is going to play football this year and I couldn't be more excited. Now I am not going to lie to you and say that I am not nervous. I am nervous but I was nervous when my boys started playing football too. This time I am not really nervous about her getting hit or injured. I am more nervous about how she is going to be treated and how people will talk to her.
We were at a football game last year and the opposing team had a girl on the team. My daughter noticed the girl on the other team because she was not only playing but playing well. The conversation went like this:
Addison: "There is a girl on the other team. Girls can play football?"
Savannah: "Yes, sweetie!"
Addison: "Awesome, I don't want to be in cheerleading next year. I want to play football!"
I was a little surprised by this because we never really told her she couldn't play before, but we never really asked her if she wanted to play football. She just wanted to do cheerleading with her friends. I just assumed that she would be in cheerleading and my boys would play football.
I will admit I use to say stuff when I was younger like, "You throw like a girl" or similar stuff. I never say that to my kids or the players I coach. Not only because it is the right thing to do but also because I grew up, got smarter, and realized I was part of the problem when I was younger.
I saw this video a while back when it came out and it hit home for me. I didn't want my daughter to feel this way when she would grow up. I wanted her to feel like she can do anything.
When we tell people that she is playing football we get a lot of feedback from people we know that is negative, close family members included. There are also people that are quiet and don't say anything negative or positive. Now, I don't want to get the impression that she doesn't have any people around here that are supportive because there are some people that are super positive about it. Comments like "You show them" and "You go girl!" make her smile from ear to ear. Her interest in football has picked up. One of her favorite shows is Bella and the Bulldogs and even though I tell her football is not as glamorous as the show, she is still excited.
The 3 football players
I want my daughter to hit, run and play like a girl and hopefully that wins us some games!